All You Need To Do Is Love Part 2

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I don’t get attached to too many people. Down here I have learned that there are “friends”, friends that are good people and there are people God will bless you with who connect to your heart, if only for a short while. We have been blessed by God a few times. The Duttons were in our lives during my miscarriages. The Whites, especially Mitzi, was there when I just needed someone to bounce things off of and she became a “sister/friend”. They are rare and, like the migratory hummingbirds, only stayed 4 – 7 years with us then God had other plans…..so we prayed and waited, prayed, and prayed some more for someone to come along and help our church to grow spiritually and physically so that we could stay in our church feeling that we were doing God’s work.

God sent unexpected people. God does this. He sent a savior, in the form of a baby, who grew to be a teacher, who understood humans yet tried to teach them how wrong they had been…. and the people expected him to be a soldier and he was not…….Then one person made a decision to try to get rid of him, and said things about him that were not true. Others supported this as they were the only the ones who also feared change listened and enabled this drama to happen. Hate, fear, holding onto the past….these are things that stop growth and blind us to God’s truth. Only a few saw what Jesus was about and they were the ones who grew churches. It was the pharisees who held onto the old ways and did not see Jesus for who he was….so nothing grew for them…. Many churches and many people do this now a days. They are the Pharisees of 2017. How can people recognize Jesus when he comes if they only see the negative things in how a person lives, how a person looks, how other people talk about that person…etc…

This is why families with young children leave churches.  Families want a church full of love and growth. Not a church where you have to be like your great grandparents. Those churches are going nowhere, they are stagnant.  They are not spreading God’s love, they are not living, they are dying. This is why I miss a real church, with real people, who stand up for what’s right and not just “let it be”. We have thought time and time again we have found a church…but time and time again the church disappoints.

Isn’t it all just about love? Isn’t that what it says over and over again……you can do all these nice things for people, but if there is no love, it’s worthless. You can say nice things to people, welcome people into your church but if there is no love, words are like seeds in the wind…. Where is the love that Jesus showed when people say the color of your skin is wrong, how you live is wrong, what you do is wrong????

I do not remember Jesus ever telling women, children, lepers, tax collectors, soldiers, homosexuals, heterosexuals, adulterers, short people, tall people, or even Pontius Pilate that they should not be loved.

I do remember he showed respect to his enemies. Respect is a form of love of people. Therefore, he showed love to all. I remember him hanging out with alot of people that others called wrong.

Humans can be so selfish, so self centered, that their fear of not getting into heaven can overflow into the craziest of ideas.

You want to know what is a sin? Here it is the list :

Jesus told us what was a sin…

  1. Not loving God, and not loving others as he showed you how to love…..
    2. To not do #1.
    3. That’s it. Why are you looking for more.
    4.  Yes it’s that simple.

I’m not seeing homosexuallity, heterosexuality, tax collectors, lepers, poka-dotted skin, short people, not going to church, technology, etc…as a sin, do you??????

If you love God and love as Jesus loved you will not say mean things, do acts as if you have to, bear false witness to others, only be a part of a church that doesn’t have “certain people” in it, not want a church to grow, and not standby and let a church die or let people get hurt.

I was actually told, by a sunday school teacher, that the wonderful Muslim family whom I tutored 20 years ago, were wrong. I guess I was “wrong” too for seeing their faith, their family values, and their love….I was loved more by that family than by many christians who think they are right…

We need to make the change

So, are you going to stand by and watch people get hurt, or watch a church die, or lose out on seeing the people that God sends to help with growth in order to “keep the peace” or “this is just the way it is down here”……

“Don’t want to rock the boat”……???

Sometimes it takes losing it all for people to be able to see how wrong they have been.

It would be sad to see this happen. People say the church is dying because the older people are dying….well, look at what they did and how they lived. Were they spending their time bad mouthing others? Were they on the corners yelling at who was a sinner? Or Were they helping others? Were they loving others? Were they just giving?

To love means …..Jesus/God. To be a christian, muslim, or a jew means to love. It is as simple as that…. If you love, you have faith and hope. Love is the greatest….

If you Love God you will trust and obey God. If you love Jesus you will love others as he loved you. If you love, you will live for God, not for others. If you love, God will work in your life in ways you won’t see until it’s done.

In the end, will you be on your “deathbed” saying, “I wish I had told others how I was hurt.”

or “I wish I told more people how to love each other regardless of race, beliefs, or who they loved.”

Which will you be?

I know I want people to look at me and say, “there is someone who just loves and who works for God”.

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All You Need To Do Is Love Part 1

 

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     If you have faith, whether it be Judiaism, Muslim, or Christianity, You can only serve one God. The God of Abraham. The God of love. You cannot serve the god of gossip, the god of lies, the god of jealousy, the god of hate, the god of money, or any other “god” that would pull you away from The God who sent his only son to die for our sins.

There are people in this world who think that because they don’t have something that someone else has, that’s it’s ok to say mean things about them to other people…..as long as you don’t say it to them, you’re not hurting anyone……but you are. You are bearing false witness against your neighbor. Did Jesus do that?

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How can people go to church, praise God, then do hateful things like lie or say hateful things? I try to understand this the same way scientists try to understand the behavior of sharks or snakes…..but sharks and snakes don’t have the ability to think, reason and learn like humans.

Snakes bite out of defense and fear.  Sharks bite out of not knowing, or ignorance. So, fear and ignorance explains alot.

People hate out of fear that they are taught or that they have learned. Maybe that is why people project their own actions onto others they are jealous of? For instance, I remember a girl who used to put me down, verbally, because she wanted to go on the trips I was able to go on….then she would tell others that I was mean to her. Everyone in my class, who knew me, did not believe what she said, but I could not understand what I did to deserve that type of treatment. It was not fair.  The only reason I forgave her because I knew, even at 13 or 14, she did not see what she was doing. “As a child, we saw as a child, But now, as an adult, we see fully….” Do we?

I have seen friends hurt because of adults doing this same thing as children do. Kids can be mean but it should only be a phase. When adults do the same things that kids do, it’s not mature,  it’s not fair, and it’s definitely not right. It does not make for a good model for children, unless you want your children to grow up as manipulators, gossipers, and liars. Integrity is doing the right thing all the time.   My heart breaks and I can understand why Jesus wept alot. It hurts to see people you trusted at one point be the people who are, or support, the manipulators in this world. The people you trusted who turn on you because they believe lies and they don’t ask you for your side. The people you once ate with who turn others against you because they don’t see what you see. This is why Jesus wept, and why those of us who seem different cry ourselves to sleep at night…..we see the evil and demons in people who go to church and raise their hands in praise….How blind they are to the reality of themselves.

You can not call yourself a follower of Christ and God then turn around and insult people, bear false witness then expect them to apologize to you for something they have not done. I have seen this in my 42 years as a Christian, up north and down here…. Don’t tell people you are being abused by someone, or getting bullied by someone  when you are the one doing the bullying.

 

I had a friend who was dating a girl for 2+ years. By the time I even noticed the subtle signs they were broken up. If she raised her voice, his eyes changed to fear. It seemed he was always looking for her but not because he missed her but because he didn’t want to be around her….. She told everyone that he abused her. She was the “victim”. We saw the facts: she was twice his weight and strength, and we knew his integrity.  So, we did not believe her. She only went to church while she was dating him….bossed him around….and later, we found out, she would get mad enough to toss him across a dorm room….Yet she was all smiles when anyone saw her…had some of us fooled for a while then lost most of who she thought were her friends. Eventually, she started to live the truth. The truth was, she was not heterosexual. Truth was she was not happy with her life. Truth was she had to make changes. I think she has because the truth always gets light shed upon it so no use fighting it.

Stay tuned for part 2………..

I Can’t Stand Apathy

We need to make the change

I have observed much apathy in our corner of NC and much impulsiveness. It makes for a  regressive dance of one step forward and 5 steps back…… which gives me the image of stagnant pond water. People who don’t allow new growth  and diversity, only want stagnant pond water to live in……

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Apathy is when you don’t do anything, you are indifferent to your surroundings or things happening around you.  Impulsiveness is kind of the opposite.  It’s when you don’t think before you do or say something and you just do it or say whatever….  in my life I guess I struggle more with impulsiveness in me and apathy in others. However,  there needs to be a middle ground.

Sometimes when I get stressed or feel the stress from weeks or months of a type of stress, which sometimes comes later. sometimes it’s overwhelming and it will cause my brain to act impulsively, say things that I shouldn’t say to others before thinking, do things without thinking, which leads to things like dents in cars or for me saying things that might be misinterpreted or hurt others when I would never want to hurt others.

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My impulsiveness has led to many tears out of frustration of my learning disability.  I’m not the only one who gets frustrated, anybody with ADD/ ADHD gets frustrated due to that impulsiveness.  If we don’t stop to think and it’s not all the time once we have it under control but when it happens it hurts not only ourselves because we feel stupid but it can also hurt others’ feelings or even break up friends.

However, at least I know and I’m aware of it but even when I do  say something wrong or do something wrong nine times out of 10 it’s out of honesty.

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But the one frustration I have is apathy of others standing by and letting something happen and not saying anything. I had a friend who dated somebody, never told me that they were hurting them. If they had told me or anybody we could have done something about it but what’s really frustrating is when you do tell somebody and they don’t do anything about it.  They think it will blow over. That’s one thing I don’t know that I can get used to down here.  I’ve heard this in several different places and it usually is said like this:  well maybe they’ll just get through it or maybe this will blow over or just wait they’ll stop, give it time.

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I think that’s problem because if you give it time once and they do the action again and you give them time again to let it “blow over” but they still do the same action that’s ridiculous! It needs to be dealt with as soon as possible.

In a classroom, if a teacher sees a student doing something and reprimands them right away they will know that the teacher is aware of their actions so they cannot do that,  whether it’s throwing something or talking or whatever it is. It’s making others aware of their actions and that they are being seen. Sometimes adults don’t think that others care what they do so they tell lies or they make up something or they spread rumors or they just do what they believe is right in their eyes without knowing what it would look like to others.  If we make them aware, right away, that “yes we do see what you’re doing and we don’t approve of it” , then they should stop wrong Behavior. I  ask my friends that if I do something wrong or say something wrong to gently tell me so that I can grow and be a better person.

My strength comes from….

Some people can handle feedback and some people get defensive and deny that they did anything.  My students do this alot.  You see them talking to somebody, you say stop talking and they say right away “I wasn’t talking”  but you and everyone saw you….. why do they do this?  I don’t know but children who don’t take responsibility for their own actions grow up to be adults that don’t think they do anything wrong.

Most of the time I feel I do everything wrong yet, sometimes I feel I don’t do anything wrong.  I do many things right because it’s from my heart or it’s an honest feeling or statement.

Being assertive and proactive would be that middle ground when you see someone treating others unfairly. Stand up for one another as you would stand up for Christ. Not with sword of tongue but with love and honesty, bringing light to the lies and deceit.  Then and only then will the demons go back from whence they came. (you like that? That’s the holy spirit talking)….

The point is that you can not be all impulsive or all apathetic.  You cannot be an adult who doesn’t think before doing or saying something nor can you just sit by and not do anything when injustices happen or when wrong behavior happens. You have to always think. Not easy when your brain is a little different than others but not an excuse either. You need to think, “does this need to be said?” or “if I say it privately to them and sternly maybe they will see I won’t put up with ‘wash women’.” or “ I am sorry, this is what I did, I didn’t mean for it to hurt you, I pray you can forgive me and we can still be friends”

So admit when you’re wrong, accept the consequences,  accept responsibility,  don’t be indifferent, and stand up when the time is needed, after you have thought and prayed about it. Don’t live in stagnant pond water but don’t put in chemicals so fast that others get hurt…..